Is your man giving you mixed signals?
Do you think he might be into it, but for some reason, does he seem scared about it?
When it comes to dealing with men and their complicated behavior, it can be hard to understand what they are really thinking.
After all, sometimes men are cold BECAUSE they love you, and other times they are cold BECAUSE they just don’t like you.
But, when you research and understand male psychology, it’s not as complicated as you might think.
So in this article, I’m going to show you tried and true ways to find out exactly how he’s really feeling.
We’ll also look at the reasons he might be afraid to fall in love with you.
So let’s go!
1. He can’t help but look at you
This is an obvious sign that he loves you. Guys usually do this naturally.
Whether you’re doing something boring, like working on your laptop, or taking the laundry out to dry, he can’t help but look at you doing it.
All you have to do is look at him every now and then and see if you catch him looking.
If he’s looking, you can bet how much he loves you.
Also, focus on how he looks at you when you’re talking to him.
You will see the kind of loving dog eyes with a cute smile that naturally occurs when you start talking.
When you see your man doing this, it is a sure sign that he is sincerely in love.
Now, if he’s scared of your feelings, he might quickly look away when he notices you’re looking. He doesn’t want you to know that he can’t help but look at you.
But if he keeps looking at you then he is definitely not afraid of your feelings and is letting you know straight away that he likes you.
2. He wants to save the day
When you fight with a friend, he naturally takes your side.
When you cross the street, he will put your body on the edge of traffic.
He can’t help it.
Even if he’s afraid to admit that he loves you for various reasons, he won’t be able to control his actions of wanting to protect you and be your hero.
A study published in the journal Physiology & Behavior shows that male testosterone makes them feel protective about their partners’ safety and well-being.
So naturally, if he loves you, he’s going to want to protect you.
In fact, there is a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that is gaining a lot of attention right now. This goes to the heart of the conundrum of why men fall in love – and who they fall in love with.
Simply put, men want to be your heroes every day. They want to take responsibility for the woman in their lives and provide for and protect her.
This is deeply rooted in male biology.
People are calling it a hero’s instinct.
The kicker is that a man isn’t going to fall in love with you when he doesn’t feel like your hero.
I know this might sound a little silly. These days, women don’t need anyone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
And I couldn’t agree more.
But here is the ironic truth. Men still need to be heroes. Because it’s built into our DNA to search for relationships that allow us to feel like one.
Some ideas change the game. And when it comes to getting a man to commit to a long-term relationship, this is one of them.
3. He’s Ignoring You
Surely if he’s ignoring you, he doesn’t love you, right?
Sometimes a guy ignores you because he loves you, especially if he’s afraid of it.
Does it look confused?
Well, some guys go out of their way to do anything, but they seem desperate.
They don’t want to show that they love you, because that will betray everything.
It is also a way of protecting your ego.
If they think you might not be interested in them, they will back off on expressing their emotions.
And the best way to do that is to ignore you.
But don’t worry, as soon as you start showing that you’re interested too, he’ll change his mind and start expressing himself better. He won’t be afraid of falling in love with you because he knows you are falling in love with him.
4. He remembers every little detail of what you say
We’ve all heard before that men are not the best listeners. And to be honest, for the most part, that’s probably true.
But if your man loves you, he will listen to everything you say. He clings to it!
If you say you’re going to your sister’s friend’s birthday party, he’ll be the first to ask how it went the next day.
If you say you’re allergic to peanuts, then whatever restaurant he chooses for you to go to, he’ll make sure peanuts aren’t on the menu.
When he’s unconditionally listening to what you’re saying, you know it’s true love.
He pays attention to your every word and also respects what you have to say. It’s so natural for him, actually. He just can’t help but pay attention to every little thing you say.
5. He continues to support you
No matter what you’re doing, whether you’re cooking dinner for the two of you or chasing your career dreams, he’s always supporting and cheering you on from the outside.
He wants the best for you. He wants you to fulfill your potential and He wants you to fulfill yourself.
He can’t help but encourage you to follow your dreams, because your happiness is critical to his happiness.
Unconditional love and support are essential characteristics of the hero instinct. I talked about this concept above.
The thing is, male desires aren’t complicated, just misunderstood. Instincts are powerful engines of human behavior and this is especially true of the way men approach their relationships.
6. His friends know how much he cares about you
This is a sure sign that he loves you if his friends know a lot about you.
Maybe they know what your job is, how you two met, and what sport you love to play.
How can that be the case when he’s afraid to admit he loves you?
Guys find it much easier to communicate with their male friends and naturally share the details of someone they like.
Shows he can’t get you out of his head.
What’s more, he’s also not going to ask you out with friends so he can show you off.
7. He gets nervous around you
This goes back to the previous point about ignoring you. The reason he’s feeling nervous has to do with his emotions.
He’s feeling something strongly and he’s starting to realize that he loves you.
But because of that, he will want to impress you at all costs.
What does it do?
This pressures him to perform! He wants you to be interested in him, which will make him nervous.
He doesn’t want to lose you and he doesn’t want you to dislike him.
So how can you tell if he’s nervous?
Nervous people tend to be more restless. He may also have trouble speaking clearly around him, which will cause him to speak less.
Another sign that someone is nervous is if they are feeling down or awkward.
So if your man is acting a little hyper and telling weird jokes, remember that he’s just nervous because he likes you.
When he starts to feel more comfortable, he will change his mind and start acting normally again.
Remember that if he loves you but is afraid to admit he loves you, it will only make him more nervous when he’s around you.
He will realize that he doesn’t exactly have complete control over his emotions and this will make him scared, anxious and afraid.
This will lead to the even more nervous behavior we talked about above.
The Psychology Behind Why Men Walk Away
If you think you’ve tried everything and your man is still pulling away, it’s probably because your fears of commitment are so ingrained in your subconscious, even though he’s not aware of them.
And unfortunately, unless you can get inside his mind and understand how the male psyche works, nothing you do will make him see you as “the one.”
8. He constantly seeks your advice
If he’s asking your opinion on important decisions he needs to make, it’s obvious that he trusts your guidance and may already be in love with you.
It shows that he really cares what you think. He thinks you’re smart and that you really care about giving him good advice.
This is especially the case if he is revealing details about his life as he seeks your guidance. This is a big clue that he trusts you and desperately wants to reveal his soul to you.
And if he really cares what you think, that means he really cares about you.
9. He struggles not to show his feelings for you
This is a sure sign that he is falling in love with you, but he may be afraid of these feelings.
He knows he cares deeply about you and it’s starting to worry him.
Why would that worry him?
Because men can struggle to process and deal with strong emotions like love.
Men like to be in control, and his feelings for you are getting so strong that he doesn’t know how to handle it.
If he can’t process his emotions, he won’t be able to talk about them. The best he can do is avoid talking about it.
Few people realize that male and female brains are biologically different. For example, the limbic system is the brain’s emotional processing center and is much larger in the female brain than in the male.
That’s why women are more in touch with their emotions. And why guys might struggle to process and understand their feelings.
If you’ve been with an emotionally unavailable man before, blame his biology, not him.
The fact is, to stimulate the emotional part of a man’s brain, you have to communicate with him in a way that he really understands.
10. He wants to be around you all the time
When a guy loves you, he can’t help but try to get as close as he can to the one he loves.
If you’re having dinner with a group of people, he’ll find a way to sit next to you.
If you’re at a party, he can position himself close to you most of the time.
The funny thing is, he really didn’t want to. This only happens subconsciously because he loves being around you.
Pay attention to body language signals that show he just wants to be around you. This will show you where your subconscious intentions are.
11. He won’t stop praising you
He looks at you and says you’re beautiful. He comments on how kind and thoughtful you are. He tells you how much he likes the meals you prepare or the work you’ve committed to.
He does everything to let you know that you are amazing. And it’s obvious that if you’re having a bad day, he’ll do his best to lift you up by praising him.
It’s not because he’s trying to suck you in, it’s just that he finds it hard to say he loves you and instead says it in other ways.
According to the doctor. Suzana E. Flores, when someone is in love, they tend to show strong empathy:
“Someone in love will care about your feelings and your well-being… If he or she is able to show empathy or is upset when you are, he or she doesn’t only protect you, but he or she probably also has strong feelings for you.”
12. He shows small signs of affection.
Don’t be confused. Little things count.
Small gestures of love show that he is in love with you. He takes care of you and is thinking of you.
These little things can be as simple as holding hands or buying a small gift to lift your spirits.
It’s also an important sign if he’s doing it not to impress you, but just to make you feel better.
It shows where his mind is and what he’s really feeling. After all, it’s hard to constantly meditate on small signs of affection.
And we can all say what we want, but it’s our actions that count.
Nicholas Sparks sums it up perfectly:
“You will find people in your life who will say all the right words at the right times. But in the end, it’s always his actions that you should judge him by. It’s the actions, not the words, that matter. ”
He might be afraid to fall in love with you for these reasons
It’s great to find out that he loves you and he’s scared of it, but the deeper question is why the hell is he scared of this?
There could be a number of reasons he’s afraid of falling in love with you, some being more innocent than others.
So if the signs indicate that he is afraid of falling in love with you, here are the most common reasons:
1. He just got out of a long-term relationship
He has had a long relationship and is going through a difficult breakup. This is extremely common.
He’s told himself he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for a while, and then you show up, which starts giving him these feelings.
Love physically hurts because our bodies release hormones and endorphins to protect us and prepare us to walk away from the perceived threat as quickly as possible.
But this threat lingers in our minds for days, weeks, months, and even years, in some cases, after a bad breakup. That’s why he’s afraid to fall in love with you. He doesn’t want to get hurt again.
Or maybe something more sinister is going on (like he already has a girlfriend). This is rare, but not out of the question.
2. He was hurt in the past
When you’ve been hurt in the past because a previous partner has cheated on you or abused you, it can make you very skeptical about starting a relationship with someone else.
This is why his guard may be up and he is naturally afraid to approach anyone again.
But do not worry. All this means that you must build his trust. The more he trusts you, the more he opens up and eventually lets his guard down.
Remember that dating a person who has been hurt in the past is all about making them feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Once he understands that he can trust you, it will ease his worries about falling in love with someone who could hurt you a lot.
3. He thinks you don’t like him back
Can you impersonate some kind of ice queen? You know the old resting face, even when you don’t mean to?
When it looks like you’re not interested, you can bet he’ll be afraid to fall in love with you.
This can even happen in relationships, where the partner fears they are falling much more in love with their lover than with their partner.
Nobody wants to be the one with the strongest feelings. This can lead to want, despair, and injury.
The good news is that there is an easy way to overcome this. All you need to do is show him that you’re interested, and he’ll see that your feelings are reciprocated.
There are different ways to show him that you like him, whether it’s buying him gifts or showing him affection when he least expects it.
Once he knows that you like or love him, he will also be more willing to show his feelings.
He loves you? Or not?
The truth is, he may not even know the answer…
Men are wired differently to women. They are driven by different things when it comes to relationships. And most of the time, they are not even aware of the things that move them.